Open relationship apps for ethical non-monogamy and polyamory
Seven services fit this list of open relationship apps: Feeld, HER and Ashley Madison name polyamory or open relationships in their own wording, Poliamoris and 3Fun are pitched at non-monogamous singles and couples, AdultFriendFinder speaks of alternative lifestyles, and the OkCupid pages checked say nothing on the subject.
At a glance
- Feeld, HER and Ashley Madison name polyamory or open relationships in their own wording. Poliamoris calls itself a polyamory and open relationship dating app, and 3Fun has couple accounts and group chats.
- Linked or couple profiles are confirmed for Feeld, 3Fun and Poliamoris, and AdultFriendFinder offers couple and group sign-up types. For OkCupid, HER and Ashley Madison they are not mentioned.
- Free messaging is confirmed for Feeld, OkCupid and HER. For AdultFriendFinder and Ashley Madison it is not confirmed, and the free limits of 3Fun and Poliamoris are not known.
- All seven list 18 as the minimum age.
- Lowest listed prices on the US App Store: USD 7.99 for OkCupid, USD 14.99 for HER, USD 29.99 for 30 days for Feeld and USD 32.99 for Ashley Madison, with no period stated for the other three.
What the pages say about relationship structure
An app earns a place among these open relationship apps when its own pages say something about structure: a profile for couples or groups, a Looking For or relationship-status option that includes non-monogamy, or wording that names polyamory, open relationships or ethical non-monogamy. Where a service says none of that, its entry says so. Terms such as ENM, polyamory and open relationship are defined in the dating app glossary.
Two neighboring topics have their own pages. Couples looking for a third person or another couple are covered in apps for couples, and BDSM and fetish communities in kink dating apps. What matters here is how an app lets a member state a relationship structure and find others who share it.
The order is editorial and carries no score. Five services with review pages come first: Feeld, OkCupid, AdultFriendFinder, HER and Ashley Madison. 3Fun and Poliamoris follow in plain text, described only from their sites, store listings and terms. In the pages that rank for the topic, Feeld is mentioned 15 times, OkCupid 4, Poliamoris 3 and 3Fun 2. All facts date from 2026-11-05.
Open relationship apps in ranked order
Feeld: linked profiles for singles, couples and groups
- Platforms
- iPhone, Android
- Minimum age
- 18
- Lowest listed price
- USD 29.99 (US, App Store)
Feeld is the most direct fit because its own wording names the structure. Singles, couples and polyamorous groups sign up, and the Google Play listing puts it this way: "Meet as a single, a couple, or link profiles with a partner to explore polyamory together." The FAQ explains ethical non-monogamy and has an entry on where to meet people in open relationships, and the About page lists "ENM" and "relationship anarchy" among the people it expects.
Structure shows up in the profile too. The Looking for options pair Casual play and fun, Short-term connections and Finding friends with benefits with Long-term connections and Monogamy only, so a member can state either end. Feeld says Desires, interests and Reflections guide who you see, and that it will never rank profiles. A filter by Desires and Last Seen exists, and it belongs to the paid Majestic Membership.
Two people who Like each other make a Connection and chat opens, while a Ping messages someone before a match. Free accounts can connect, explore profiles and send messages. The safety page calls photo verification optional, and a browser version of the dating app is not confirmed.
OkCupid: questions and preferences, structure not described
- Platforms
- iPhone, Android, Web
- Minimum age
- 18
- Lowest listed price
- USD 7.99 (US, App Store)
OkCupid is here for its matching method, because the pages checked never say how it treats non-monogamy or polyamory. The help center describes questions and preferences: members answer questions (500+ in the app, 15 required at sign-up), set what they want, and the algorithm combines both with answers to shared questions into a Match % score. One Google Play review mentions monogamy and polyamory matching, which is a reader's report and not a statement from OkCupid.
Whether relationship structure can be asked about or ruled out is not stated. The help article on matching is undated and describes features of earlier years, so its details are indicative. Google Play names casual dating next to a serious relationship, and the audience is described as people of all genders and orientations.
Using OkCupid is free according to the help center: create an account, answer questions, match and message. Paid plans add seeing who has liked you, unlimited Likes and Dealbreakers, and Incognito Mode is a paid upgrade. Photo Verification is a video selfie with a Liveness Check, and the service also runs in a browser.
AdultFriendFinder: couple and group sign-up on an adult website
- Platforms
- Web
- Minimum age
- 18
- Lowest listed price
- not confirmed
AdultFriendFinder sets structure at registration. The form asks whether you are a man, woman, couple, group or trans member and who you want to meet, and couples of any pairing can sign up. The homepage describes a sex-positive community and says the site celebrates "all forms of intimate connection", from traditional dating to alternative lifestyles. How a couple profile works, and whether two accounts are tied together, is not described.
Joining costs nothing, and the pages stop there. Some services need a paid subscription or credits, and nothing says whether a free member can send or read a message. It is a website with member login; the homepage markets a mobile version without linking a store page. The terms of use say the company has no obligation to screen its users, and no verification feature is described.
HER: a Poly option in the Looking For filter
- Platforms
- iPhone, Android
- Minimum age
- 18
- Lowest listed price
- USD 14.99 (US, App Store)
HER is made for queer women, non-binary and trans people, and its structure option sits in the Premium tier. The Premium Looking For filter includes "Monogamous, Poly, New Friends & More", and the site links a Polyamorous dating page. Beyond that the pages checked say little about non-monogamy. They describe friends, events and communities next to dating, and a mutual Like makes a match.
The homepage says core features are free and "will remain free": add friends, view profiles, start chats, like and match, view events, join communities and use the Feed. The Premium page adds that you can Like, Match and Message members without any cost. The free app shows ads and has daily swipes, and Premium removes the limit. Incognito Mode is a Premium feature, and the homepage says users are verified and authenticated. More is in the help center.
Ashley Madison: discretion first, open relationships named on the homepage
- Platforms
- iPhone, Android, Web
- Minimum age
- 18
- Lowest listed price
- USD 32.99 (US, App Store)
The homepage lists the structure by name: members may be "in an open relationship, exploring polyamory or ethical non-monogamy", next to singles looking for dates and people interested in casual dating. The service calls itself discretion-focused. The homepage lists photo encryption, permission-based private image sharing and a stealth mode for iOS, the service also describes discreet billing, and a Verify Your Profile option sits in the Google Play description.
Members search by filters and Interests and Desires tags, Discreet Match pairs people who value privacy, and contact runs through messages, Winks and Private Key Requests. Couple or linked profiles are not mentioned. A free member profile opens some features and credits or a package pay for the rest. The terms say free profiles can communicate with other members subject to other terms, and how far that goes is not confirmed.
Two more services without review pages
3Fun: couple accounts and group chats
3Fun is an app for singles and couples, and its listings describe couple accounts, group chats, private photos and an incognito mode. The site headline pitches it at "open minded singles & partners to meet like-minded people". How a couple account is set up and how groups form are not described.
The App Store listing, "3Fun: Couples & Singles Dating", comes from the seller 3Fun Limited and runs on iPhone and iPad, and the Google Play listing shows 1M+ downloads. The FAQ names a browser version, 3Fun Online (Go3Fun.co). Section 4.1 of the UK terms of service sets the minimum age at 18. The App Store listing appears in 36 of the 45 storefronts checked and is missing in Turkey, Israel, the UAE, Saudi Arabia, the Philippines, Malaysia, Indonesia, Hong Kong and Taiwan. Prices and free-account limits are not known.
Poliamoris: a polyamory service with a web version
Poliamoris calls itself a polyamory and open relationship dating app, and the site invites people to meet polyamorous women, men and couples. It has individual and couple profiles and video calls. The Google Play listing is titled "Poliamoris: Polyamorous Dating" and published as "Poliamoris App".
A web version is confirmed: the site says to use your phone or computer's browser, or connect through the Android app. No App Store listing was found on 2026-11-05, and the site and terms mention only the website and the Android app, so an iPhone app is not confirmed. The Terms of Use have a section on age and couple profiles that requires members to be at least 18. Prices and free-account limits are not known.
Structure and privacy features side by side
Not confirmed means the pages checked on 2026-11-05 do not mention the feature, so it may exist. The five services with review pages are compared here, and the couple and group features of 3Fun and Poliamoris are in their entries above.
Feeld
- Main intentsex-positive
- Couples profilesYes
- Group chatYes
- Free messagingYes
- Incognito modeYes
- Private photosYes
- Profile verificationYes
- Web versionNot confirmed
- Lowest listed price (US, App Store)USD 29.99, Majestic Membership
OkCupid
- Main intentdating
- Couples profilesNot confirmed
- Group chatNot confirmed
- Free messagingYes
- Incognito modeYes
- Private photosNot confirmed
- Profile verificationYes
- Web versionYes
- Lowest listed price (US, App Store)USD 7.99, OkCupid Premium
AdultFriendFinder
- Main intentsex-positive
- Couples profilesYes
- Group chatNot confirmed
- Free messagingNot confirmed
- Incognito modeNot confirmed
- Private photosNot confirmed
- Profile verificationNot confirmed
- Web versionYes
- Lowest listed price (US, App Store)No price confirmed
HER
- Main intentlgbtq
- Couples profilesNot confirmed
- Group chatYes
- Free messagingYes
- Incognito modeYes
- Private photosNot confirmed
- Profile verificationYes
- Web versionNot confirmed
- Lowest listed price (US, App Store)USD 14.99, HER Premium
Ashley Madison
- Main intentcasual
- Couples profilesNot confirmed
- Group chatNot confirmed
- Free messagingNot confirmed
- Incognito modeNot confirmed
- Private photosYes
- Profile verificationYes
- Web versionYes
- Lowest listed price (US, App Store)USD 32.99, Ashley Madison Preferred
Linked-profile mechanics are the thinnest area. Feeld's wording says profiles link with a partner, AdultFriendFinder lists couple and group sign-up types without saying how they connect, and the pages checked for OkCupid, HER and Ashley Madison do not mention couple profiles. Group chat is confirmed for Feeld and for HER, where it means community chats built around interests and hobbies.
Free versus paid on open relationship apps
Free messaging is confirmed for three of the seven: Feeld, OkCupid and HER. Feeld's Majestic page says free accounts can send messages, the OkCupid help center says matches can message without payment, and HER's Premium page says you can Like, Match and Message members without any cost. AdultFriendFinder registration and an Ashley Madison profile are free, and for both the extent of free messaging is not confirmed. A wider view of free tiers is in free-tier dating apps.
The prices here come from iPhone App Store listings, and the period is often missing. Feeld's lowest listed price on the US App Store is USD 29.99 for 30 days, with USD 49.99 for 90 days and a Majestic Membership for 1 year at USD 149.99. OkCupid lists A-List at USD 9.99 on the US App Store and Premium rows from USD 7.99 to USD 59.99, with no period stated in the listing. HER lists HER Gold and HER Premium at USD 14.99 on the US App Store and Platinum rows from USD 19.99 to USD 31.99, again with no period stated. Ashley Madison has one row on the US App Store, Ashley Madison Preferred at USD 32.99, with no period.
The UK App Store lists the Feeld subscription for 30 days at GBP 17.99 and Majestic for 1 year at GBP 99.99. On the UK App Store OkCupid lists A-List at GBP 7.99, HER lists Premium rows from GBP 7.99 to GBP 139.99, and Ashley Madison lists Preferred at GBP 23.99 and Preferred Plus at GBP 64.99. AdultFriendFinder has no App Store row, and no price is known for 3Fun or Poliamoris. Google Play and web prices are not covered. Plan-by-plan rows are on what Feeld charges and the Ashley Madison price page.
Verification and privacy tools
Verification varies. Feeld calls photo verification optional, OkCupid describes a video selfie check, Ashley Madison lists a Verify Your Profile option and HER's homepage says users are verified and authenticated. AdultFriendFinder describes no verification feature, and for 3Fun and Poliamoris none is confirmed. The comparison in apps with profile verification covers the feature across the site.
Hiding a profile from people you know matters for members who do not want a colleague or relative to find it. Feeld's Incognito hides your profile in the feed until you Like someone and sits in Majestic, OkCupid's Incognito Mode is a paid upgrade, and HER's is a Premium feature. 3Fun lists an incognito mode, and Ashley Madison lists Stealth Mode for iOS without saying what it hides. For the wider rules see dating app safety, our scams guide and discreet dating apps.
FAQ
Which open relationship apps name polyamory or ethical non-monogamy?
Feeld's Google Play description names polyamory and its FAQ explains ethical non-monogamy. Ashley Madison's homepage names open relationships, polyamory and ethical non-monogamy, and HER's Premium Looking For filter includes Poly. Poliamoris describes itself as a polyamory and open relationship dating app, and 3Fun addresses open-minded singles and partners. For OkCupid, no official source read states how the app handles non-monogamy.
Can couples link profiles on these apps?
Feeld lets a person link profiles with a partner, 3Fun has couple accounts and Poliamoris has individual and couple profiles. AdultFriendFinder lists couple and group sign-up types, and how they work is not described. OkCupid, HER and Ashley Madison do not mention couple profiles. More on couples is in couples dating apps.
Which of these work in a browser?
OkCupid, AdultFriendFinder, 3Fun and Poliamoris have a browser version or website, and Ashley Madison's terms refer to AshleyMadison.com next to its mobile app. A web version of Feeld and of HER is not confirmed. The list of dating sites in a browser has the wider picture.
What is the minimum age?
18 for all seven, according to their terms. Feeld's UK terms (section 6.1) require members to be 18 or over, AdultFriendFinder's add the age of majority and legal consent, 3Fun's UK terms say at least 18, and Poliamoris sets 18 in its Terms of Use. None of them is open to people under 18.
Which of these are listed in the most countries?
Of 45 App Store storefronts checked, OkCupid is listed in 44 (missing: South Korea), Feeld in 42 (the Philippines, Malaysia, Hong Kong) and HER in 42 (the UAE, Saudi Arabia, Malaysia). Ashley Madison and 3Fun are each listed in 36. AdultFriendFinder has no App Store listing confirmed, and none was found for Poliamoris. Country pages start at dating apps by country.
Which of these also appear on the kink list?
Feeld, AdultFriendFinder and 3Fun are in both, because their pages speak to couples and open-minded adults as well as to sex-positive communities. The kink ranking goes by BDSM and fetish wording, and this one goes by relationship structure. The Feeld entry in full is in the Feeld review.